We all know what anger is, and we’ve all felt it: whether as a fleeting annoyance or as full-fledged rage. Anger is a completely normal, usually healthy, human emotion. But when it gets out of control and turns destructive, it can lead to problems—problems at work, in your personal relationships, and in the overall quality of your life. And it can make you feel as though you’re at the mercy of an unpredictable and powerful emotion.
Anger Management involves learning to control one’s reactions to anger provoking situations, including emotional feelings of anger, the physiological arousal associated with anger, and the resulting angry behaviour.
Overcoming anger is about moving on from your past, no matter how difficult it has been. You may need to go back and re-examine your life in a new light.
Cognitive psychologists believe that it is not a situation or another person that causes anger. They suggest that your emotions are actually the consequences of what you think about an event. When something happens to you, you begin to think about what happened, you make an evaluation, and the emotion occur. Therefore, you can change your emotions by changing how you think in a variety of situations.
If you are having problems with feelings of anger or physical aggression, you probably want to change. You may feel the need to control yourself and your emotions more effectively. However, you may not know how to control your anger. Anger Management is much more than learning a few tools and techniques that you can use when you get upset. It is about getting to know yourself. It is learning what triggers your anger, ways you choose to express anger to others, consequences of your anger, incidents from your childhood that may lead to anger, and the level of intensity of your angry feelings.
Anger management experts believe that anger and aggression are primarily learned from people and events in your environment. Since you learned to feel angry you can also learn other ways to react when you angry.
At the Hazelton Clinic you can choose Anger Management either on a one to one basis or join our Anger Management groups. Both are facilitated by qualified Counsellors, providing a confidential and non-judgemental programme.
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